Tall girl dating uk
Tall girl dating uk
To the Sophie Dahls and Jamie Cullums of this world – I salute you.
Kevin: I'm not one to complain about being short, because once you realize you can shop in the children's section and climb on top of things to get to out-of-reach objects, you're pretty much on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I think a lot of guys fetishize the height gap and say things like, "I'm so into you because you're so short," or "It's really hot knowing that I could lift you up in bed," etc.
However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.
So, contrary to popular belief, my dating life on the whole has actually been more successful after transition than it was before, as a cis gay man.
Back when I identified as a gay man, my short stature was a liability, since the mainstream gay world is into tall, muscular guys.
In short, women are attracted to taller men, because height (aka size and strength) serves as a good proxy for good genes in the mating game.
And, what's more, if a man is strong in other areas (and other switches), then she's more likely to overlook the height thing.
I understand everyone has their preferences, but it's always been the most baffling thing to me how some people unabashedly put things like "Under 5'10" need not apply" right in their profile, dismissing someone right off the bat based on something so superficial.
Though in fairness, when I see someone write something like that, I immediately lose attraction to their personality anyway.
Or guys can also be completely dismissive once they see me in person and say, "You seem much taller in your photos" or "I didn't realize how short you were until you got off that stool." I recently had one guy actually look over my head to see if the person he was meeting was someone else besides me. But of course in a completely contradictory way, I'm usually attracted to men who are much, much taller than I am.
So I guess opposites attract, or I just enjoy the awkward interactions/comical antics of doing activities with someone much taller than I? Standing out (physically) my whole life has led me to be much more confident and fearless of being different. There are definitely a lot of great guys who only see six feet as one small part of who I am.
While some people find that their height doesn't impact dating at all, others may feel that it allows for judgment, fetishization, and stereotyping.