Dating a loser test
Dating a loser test
Similarly, Carver notes that the Loser doesn’t have to exhibit all of the symptoms listed below to be dangerous.The presence of even three of these symptoms indicates a potentially harmful relationship.
As Carver observes, “You hang on, hoping each mean-then-sweet cycle is the last one.
The cycle starts when they are intentionally hurtful and mean.
You may be verbally abused, cursed, and threatened over something minor.
It signals shallowness of emotions rather than strength of love.
He elaborates, “Normal, healthy individuals require a long process to develop a relationship because there is so much at stake… Carver states that Losers often begin with indirect violence—such as demonstratively hitting the wall with their fist or throwing objects—before they start pushing, punching or hitting their partners.
This is why psychopaths eventually move from the initial over-the-top flattery to scathing criticism.
Once they have secured their chosen partners in their grasp, they put them down to erode their self-esteem.Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you’ll hear that you’re the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you.You’ll receive gifts, a variety of promises, and be showered with their attention and nice gestures.” Drew Peterson and other dangerous seducers wouldn’t get any partners, much less attractive young women, if they showed their true colors from the very beginning. They deluge their targets with flattery, promises and gifts at the beginning of the relationship.He began with criticism, went on to name-calling and moved on to physical violence and (probably) murder. “The Loser,” Carver notes, “has very shallow emotions and connections with others.It’s very important to get away from a Loser at the slightest hint of violence, including verbal aggression, since abuse usually increases in frequency and severity over time. One of the things that might attract you to the Loser is how quickly he or she says ‘I Love You’ or wants to marry or commit to you.No matter how promiscuous they actually are, they focus their energies on their most desirable targets.